The basic theory
The main theory of this site can be fairly simply
explained. When the
contraceptive pill was first developed it was tested for side effects
dangerous to health but not for changes to a woman's physiology, emotional and
mental states. The theory proposes that the pill, usually estrogen and
progesterone in fact have profound changes to women because they are not actual
drugs but bodily hormones.
So tinkering with the balance of hormones in the body can
affect a person in many ways. When you suddenly introduce a contraceptive to a
large portion of the population of women in developed countries those side
effects can profoundly change society. One analogy is if you drugged a large
percentage of the population with a chemical such as valium then this would
change society as so many people would act differently. In the same way
estrogen and progesterone
might affect women so much as to profoundly change our society.
Why didn't anyone notice?
Most people ask this question, that if a drug suddenly
changed so many people and made them act differently, why didn't those people
realise they were drugged and stop taking it? I believe the answer to this lies
in the way I first thought of this theory. In 1993 I was doing regular exercise
at a gym, and as is typical, some people at gyms take
steroids. This is
usually a large dose of
testosterone and related chemicals. I noticed at the time that bodybuilders
who take testosterone often have personality changes. On reading more about this
I found that this is quite common. Estrogen in the pill however has a similar
effect on women.
So if women are taking estrogen in a contraceptive then
they might find it hard to see how it affects them because their own estrogen
levels sometimes go up and down naturally.
Also we have lived with these effects for decades now, and
rarely see any women who didn't take estrogen as a contraceptive. So we don't
have a ready sample of women to compare their behavior against. Exceptions might
be women who refused to take the pill for religious or because of side effects,
women in countries where is is banned and so on. So women who didn't take
estrogen are now as rare as perhaps men today who take steroids, so their impact
on society, once dominant is now insignificant. During this same time period
society has gone from divorce being rare to being commonplace.
This has been noticed by other, particular in the Roman
Catholic church. However they see contraception as an effect of an immoral
society rather than the cause of one, as I theorize here.
The idea of a chemical or drug changing people in a
society is not new. For example some people believe that fluoride affects the
way people act on a mass scale. More recently estrogen is suspected of polluting
society in a different way, in
cosmetics.
While I do not agree with this, it is natural for a society to be suspicious of
radical changes. In fact conservatism is avoiding such risks. Oddly enough no
one seems to have suspected estrogen of any of these side effects even though it
is probably the most widely prescribed drug to women.
One of the reasons I took so long to put forward this
theory is that no one else had done so. So I assumed for a long time there were
reasons why none of this could be true. After having researched this for 14
years though I haven't seen such evidence against the theory, and believe the
evidence for it continues to increase
Do we know how estrogen affects
women?
There is only anecdotal evidence. However
there is a lot of evidence on how males taking sex hormones can be affected.
This is because bodybuilders and athletes often take steroids, which are based
on testosterone, and its effects have been studied. From my own experience and
reading there is anecdotal evidence (not proof) the following occurs in people
who take steroids, including testosterone.
1. A flattening of the personality. Bodybuilders often
find their emotions are affected by testosterone. Mood swings are less
pronounced and an abnormal settling into a narrow range of emotions occurs. This
is because the emotions are strongly bound up with testosterone in a male. For
example if a male is in a dominant position such as winning a football match
their testosterone soars. If they are in a submissive position such as being
weak, a subordinate position at work and so on their testosterone declines. In
fact the body can change the level of testosterone quickly according to
circumstances, and this is also seen in other animals such as monkeys. So the
body uses its ability to manipulate the body's level of testosterone and this
affects a person's personality. So if a bodybuilder takes testosterone they lose
this ability to change their emotional state to some degree, resulting in a
flattening of emotions.
2. Emotional outbursts. The high levels of testosterone
cause a bodybuilder to display emotions such as aggression, increased confidence
with women, anger ('roid rage), confidence and so on. This can be inappropriate
as the testosterone they have injected changes their personality in ways that
may not suit the situation. So a bodybuilder might have problems in fighting,
explosive anger, sexual harassment, and so on. A good example of this was Arnold
Schwarzenegger and how he got into trouble with women while taking steroids.
Also there have been cases of security personnel and bouncers at night clubs
hurting, even killing people in fights from 'roid rage.
3. Physical changes. Testosterone actually physically
changes a male. If he is prone to baldness it can be accelerated. As is well
known steroids increase stamina and muscle growth which is why athletes get
caught taking them in sporting events. They also increase water retention in the
body making the face for example seem more puffy, which can also be interpreted
as looking more attractive to women. There is also evidence large amounts of
testosterone make changes in the brain, increasing a male's ability to talk to
and seduce women. Most of these effects cannot be reversed, and after time the
person who takes testosterone becomes permanently different.
4. Ignorance. Many people who take testosterone and
steroids don't realise these side effects exist, particularly in personality.
This is probably because taking a bodily hormone is a fundamental change in
ourselves and we are used to our hormonal levels changing. Because testosterone
is a natural hormone then we have difficulty in telling exactly how it is
affecting us in higher doses. Consequently a bodybuilder even though he might be
aware of the side effects has to fight the feeling that his changed emotions are
not natural. So instead of realising he is more prone to anger he might feel
people are being more annoying to him. Such emotional problems can isolate the
steroid taker and break up friendships without them realising why it is
happening.
5. Relationships. Friends of someone taking testosterone
can find their behaviour puzzling or annoying. Because they are more constantly
aggressive someone more timid can fee threatened or feel their interests as
friends are no longer the same. On testosterone a person might be much more
obsessed with sex and a female partner might find this unnatural at that point
in their relationship. So this changing of a bodybuilder's emotions can cause a
rift between them and other people not taking it.
6. Hormonal variations. A person taking steroids can
develop resistence to it and so at times act as though they have less
testosterone than a normal person would. So they might at times act in the
opposite way to these symptoms. Also they often have to not take steroids to
reduce this resistence and it takes time for their natural testosterone flow to
resume. This is because when someone takes testosterone the testicles stop
producing it and shrink, and it takes time for them to start working again. So
someone taking steroids might have times when it is working well and other times
when they are not taking it, which can make for even larger changes in mood,
personality, etc.
7. Marriages might break up. A married couple usually goes
through a more intense sexual period and then later this declines. So a man
might have lower testosterone normally because he has already found his mate for
procreation and so testosterone is not needed to urge the man to find another
woman. Also as children are being raised it becomes less necessary to have sex,
particularly if more children are not desired. So historically people used
abstinence as birth
control, and combined with the rhythm method of having sex when a woman was
infertile it worked quite well. Until recently the only other way to avoid
procreation this was using some kind of sheath like a condom. Because this was
not a drug though it had little effect on society, at least one people's
emotions. So a man on testosterone might constantly be looking at other woman,
causing jealousy in his mate, having affairs, and probably losing the love
between them. So such a society might have fewer marriages and children, people
stay single to have multiple sexual partners, divorce is more common, love is
less a factor in relationships and physical desire is more important, and so on.
Why are the effects of
testosterone relevant to estrogen?
Because estrogen and testosterone are very similar
chemically. Also every woman has some testosterone in their body and every male
has some estrogen. In a male this happens by a process called aromatization in
which estrogen forms from testosterone, and this happens more and more as a male
grows older. So for both sexes they are affected by both hormones. In this case
then the level of testosterone in a woman might affect their personality as more
testosterone is produced in them. The above side effects of testosterone in
males are quite extensive but we don't notice this because hardly anyone takes
steroids. However if we gave nearly every male in a society testosterone then we
would see these changes in nearly everyone, and this could potentially change
our society. Imagine for example if nearly every male had 'roid rage and
attacked people physically when they got into an argument. Of course some people
can control this, but a society is often based people being relatively timid and
submissive rather than aggressive.
In fact this is actually being proposed, for men to take
testosterone for birth control just as women take estrogen. This is because when
a male takes steroids he in infertile. So by giving males the equivalent of a
dost of steroids it would be impossible for him to make a woman pregnant.
So how would testosterone change
society?
It is difficult to predict this because no studies have
been done, but assuming a male contraceptive would make many people act like
bodybuilders then:
1. Males would become far more sex obsessed at all ages.
So our society would become far more sexually orientated in advertising and
dress.
2. Males would be more aggressive sexually. Steroids are
often implicated in rape so the numbers of rape and sexual harassment might
soar.
3. Males would look different. Typically they would become
leaner, more muscular, and also there are indication the rates of many diseases
such as heart attacks and cancer might drop. This is because testosterone can
boost the immune system. Also testosterone reduces fat which improves the
physique but puts some bulk back on in water retention.
4. Preferences might change. Because testosterone changes
the emotions people might want to watch different movies, talk about different
things, read different books, and so on.
So why would testosterone be
considered as a contraceptive with these side effects?
Because these side effects are not tested for in this use.
While the effects of testosterone are well known to anyone who has taken it
researchers have no easy way to measure any of this. Consequently the potential
risks of widespread testosterone use has not been well researched.
So how is this relevant to
contraception in women?
Because estrogen and testosterone are so similar it may be
that the scenario I described with testosterone already happened in a similar
way with women starting around the 1960's for many countries. So the effects of
estrogen as I will show may have changed women in ways similar to how
testosterone changes men, hence changing our society.
1. A flattening of the personality. In the same way
as with testosterone, taking estrogen should alter the emotions in a woman. So a
woman on a certain level of estrogen might have their emotions change, which
could make other people, particularly males act differently towards them.
Usually a woman's estrogen levels would fluctuate according to circumstances
like a man's would. So in a submissive environment such as being married
estrogen might be lower and when aggression is needed such as in finding a mate
the estrogen might surge. So this can be the same in a female as a male,
hormones regulated by the body to change their behaviour according to
circumstances.
2. Emotional outbursts. If it has the same effect
as testosterone, estrogen might cause women to lose their temper more often, act
more aggressively, fight, and so on. So the use of contraceptives over time
might have increased household violence. A man might typically expect a wife a
girlfriend for example to reduce their estrogen level as they settle down, but
the estrogen in contraceptives keeps it at much higher levels. Consequently a
woman might be more aggressive, more self confident, get more angry than the
male expects, causing fights. This can also have a positive effect as this
aggression and self confidence can urge a woman into dominating a relationship,
having a career and so on. Since the 1960's women have gone from hardly being in
the workforce to virtually dominating it in many areas. So this estrogen might
have changed our society so female dominate much of it instead of being
traditionally submissive. It is not the intention here to assert the women's
place is in the home or not, but to explore the idea that women do different
things today, including work, perhaps from the effects of estrogen, not their
own natural ambitions.
3. Physical changes. Estrogen is the hormone that
causes a female child to become a woman and attractive to men. If it has a
similar effect to testosterone then this artificial increase in estrogen levels
might make women more feminine looking, more physically attractive, wider
hipped, larger breasted etc. Also with water retention as with testosterone this
would tend to change the physique shape and face, making them more attractive.
The result might be the equivalent of much of the female
population becoming much more sexually attractive than their male counterpart,
unless he took testosterone. So this could have a sexualising effect on society
because since women are more attractive, men are more distracted and the female
form becomes more and more effective when used in advertising. So this estrogen
could transform society from where sex is not mentioned on TV, music, where
people dress conservatively to where sex is accentuated on TV and in movies,
sexual discussions happen more frequently amongst males as they notice these
women more, etc. As with men once women had taken estrogen these changes would
be permanent so there might be a strain in relationships where women more often
seem "too good" or too attractive for a man who before might have been naturally
a better match to them.
4. Ignorance. Because these hormonal changes are so
similar to natural hormone surges it is more difficult for women to separate
these as unnatural changes and so they tend to act more differently. So a woman
might find herself thinking more sexually taking the pill but this might be
masked by becoming sexually active or being in a relationship and so they think
they are acting normally and not because of the estrogen. So a male might think
a woman is acting strangely and end a relationship so a woman might find herself
single or regularly being dumped, and attribute this to the fault of the men or
some other fault in themselves. So at a critical time in a relationship the
estrogen might distort sexual interactions, and making love and marriage less
likely.
As a good example the sexual revolution in the 1960's
might have been caused by estrogen rather than estrogen enabling easier
contraception. When the pill came out there was a huge change in society with
free love, but essentially condoms were also able to prevent contraction. So
using a condom had not made society embrace free love, promiscuity and the like
even though it could enable nearly the same lifestyle. Also the estrogen levels
in the first contraceptive pills were much higher and so all these effects might
be far more pronounced. People however saw this as a change in society perhaps
brought about by technology changing our lives, and so someone taking the pill
might assume their emotions and desires were natural and their parents were
unnatural in their aversion to this lifestyle.
This situation is harder to see now since most parents
also grew up in relationships using estrogen. One difference is most are either
divorced or estranged in some way but before the 60's most marriages were
relatively harmonious and stable. We can see though that other countries that
didn't use the pill or banned it didn't have this same surge of sexual
promiscuity and divorce, such as Japan, the Middle East, Ireland, etc.
5. Relationships. If estrogen works in a similar
way to testosterone we should see a widening rift between males and females, not
only in marriage and relationships but in friendships. A woman might feel more
tempted to have a one night stand because like with testosterone the increased
sexual hormone would be at a higher level than prudent when seeing men all the
time socially and at work. So women not on the pill such as wanting to remain
virgins would find a rift between them and their friends on estrogen. Also there
would be a rift between girls who have not taken the pill and those who have. So
younger women might find themselves under peer pressure to engage in premarital
sex from other friends on estrogen. It need not even be from friends but peer
pressure from the media, advertisements, movies, celebrities and so on. So
before estrogen women might have had peer pressure to avoid premarital sex today
the urge of estrogen shows women craving it, acting on impulse and the peer
pressure is to do it as well. Once a girl does it then it is likely they would
take estrogen as well and so the cycle continues.
Hormonal variations. Hormones may vary in a woman
because, like taking steroids they have part of the month free from taking the
Pill. So in this time the natural estrogen and progesterone levels struggle to
return to normal, but becaue this has atrophied to some degree the result can be
unbalanced hormones. Then when the Pill is resumed the receptors for it, like
with steroids are refreshed and so it works better until resistance builds up
again through the month. The effect then might be like a hormonal roller
coaster.
6. Marriages break up. As mentioned earlier
testosterone typically declines in a husband because the relationship should
settle down into child rearing rather than eroticism. Instead though the taking
of estrogen keeps a woman at a higher desire for sex, or in some cases (as with
testosterone) it might have the opposite affect and reduce artificially a
woman's desire for sex. So this friction between a woman's high estrogen levels
and a man's lower testosterone levels might lead to a marriage breaking up,
sexual incompatibility or inadequacy, a man's testosterone responding by being
higher than normal and so on.
How would this affect society?
As I showed earlier if most males took testosterone than
many would act like we already know steroid users do. So where we see this
change from steroid use affecting some social circles like gym parties, bouncers
at nightclubs, professional athletes partying and so on we can extrapolate this
into a change in the whole of a society. To continue this thought experiment and
assume estrogen would cause similar changes then were might theorise estrogen
would change society in the following ways.
1. Females would be more sex obsessed. So there
would be more magazines such as Cleo devoted to this, whereas such magazines and
Mills and Boon like erotic novels barely existed before The Pill. Women would
dress more sexually provocatively. Whereas before a woman might dress up to
catch a man because circumstances cause a surge in natural estrogen now the
estrogen is always high. So women might dress sexually more often. Since the use
of estrogen there was a constant battle from women wanting to wear shorter
skirts, lower necklines, small swimsuits, in more and more places. It can also
be said this might be a by product of modern society but countries that didn't
allow The Pill did not experience this. One only has to look at Muslim countries
to see such dress changes have never been pushed for by women. In fact there
women are often as keen as men to maintain traditional Islamic costumes. Also in
Ireland and Japan the clothing by women remained more modest.
2. Females would be more aggressive sexually.
Prearranged marriages were much more common prior to use of estrogen, as there
might have been less sexual pressure from the estrogen to select a more
attractive partner. So the estrogen may make women more aggressive in selecting
their preferred partner rather than accepting the advances of a male. This would
also change society radically over time, perhaps to make people more physically
attractive if their fathers were selected for this. Also women might be more
prone to being raped or a kind of date rape as the estrogen might make them more
likely to go ahead rather than refuse sex. So this might lead to an increase in
abortions where women took the pill erratically or it failed and they had not
more than an artificially induced attraction from estrogen to have sex in the
first place. So later a woman would realise they didn't want the baby and hence
abortions rise, as well as use of morning after contraceptives.
Also a woman might marry a man for the wrong reasons,
where instead of assessing a mate on many traditional factors they might pick
someone inappropriate and then wonder later why they picked them. This can lead
to divorce. Another result might be women end up in a triangle like relationship
where there are two types of men. One is the kind they would historically have
married but is less sexually exciting. In fact this might simply be because they
have a more normal level of testosterone than the woman has of estrogen. The
other type of man is more sexually exciting, either takes steroids or has a
naturally higher testosterone level but is otherwise not suitable for marriage.
So a woman might end up with the second kind of guy, be an unmarried mother, and
over time this could skew the whole genetic distribution of a society.
3. Females would look different. As said earlier
the widespread changes in female appearence would affect society. Women might
decide they are too attractive for the kind of man they might have traditionally
married, and so look for men that are better. These might be men with naturally
higher testosterone. So they might end up in relationships where they have
multiple sexual partners with such men, who because of high testosterone "aren't
the marrying kind".
4. Preferences might change. Women on estrogen
might find this gives them new interests and desires. Whereas before women spent
less on looking good now often women spend far more on clothes, perfume,
cosmetic, plastic surgery, want to see movies designed for their point of view,
read romantic novels, and so on. So this can represent a massive change in the
wealth of a society whereas before such money might have been spent on marriage,
buying a home, etc.
So a woman as a housewife might need estrogen less as they
have found a mate, and so a lower estrogen level might cause their bodies to
become less attractive. This might be a benefit through natural selection as it
makes it less likely she will be targeted by other men.
Can you prove this?
No. This site is merely the outcome of thinking
about this since 1993 and presenting some information on the subject. A reader
might then think for himself as to whether there is any merit to the idea.
Obviously I think there might be or I wouldn't have made this site. At some
point hopefully sufficient evidence will exist to prove or disprove this theory.
The chance of the this theory being completely correct is low, but I think parts
of it are likely to be right. Look for example in the references to see research
on this subject
References:
Referenced material is in blue and my
comments are in black.
An
interesting article on divorce rates in Japan.
"The story
becomes even more interesting, however, when you consider what
happened to Japanese divorce rates during the 20th Century. Japan’s
rate fell steeply after 1898 and continued falling steadily until
the 1960s when it reached a record low level of 0.73 per 1,000—a
figure far below those that prevailed in Europe and North America at
that time. It then began rising through the 1960s and 1970s and
accelerated upward in the past decade, reaching a level of 2.3
divorces per 1,000 in 2002 (p.145)—roughly on par with the level of
divorce in France. After periods of unusually high divorce before
1900 and unusually low divorce in the first decades after World War
II, Japan has finally found itself with a “normal” rate of divorce."
So Japan's divorce rate
began to climb around the time estrogen began being used as a
contraceptive.
Divorce on Wikipedia
"In
the USA,
Canada,
the
United Kingdom, and some other developed
Commonwealth countries, this divorce boom
developed in the last half of the
twentieth century."
This fits in well with the
invention of Oral Contraceptives.
"
Research by
British website
http://www.insidedivorce.com
which questioned over 2,000 people who are married,
divorced, separated or living together found that
nearly one in five marriages (19%) – that’s half a
million people – are on shaky ground and could be
heading for the divorce courts, according to
research* by the website. Key findings from the
report, which takes an in-depth look at modern love
and the social, economic, sexual and psychological
ups and downs that make and break Britain’s
relationships, include:
- Sex,
infidelity, falling out of love and abuse are
the primary reason for divorce in Britain.
- One in
five women cite a serious incident of abuse as
the reason for relationship breakdown.
- One in
three men are currently bored with their wife
and marriage.
- The
average length of marriage before it hits the
rocks is seven years, three months.
Nearly half
(44%) of married people surveyed say that their sex
lives have decreased while a further one in ten
married couples are having no sex at all. These
figures are particularly worrying for men, with
“lack of sex” being cited as the single biggest
factor in relationship breakdown. Tellingly, 36 per
cent of men and 44 per cent of women said a
partner’s affair was a key problem in their
marriage.
27% said that
discovering their partner was having an affair was
the defining moment that signalled the end of their
marriage. In terms of how they discovered their
partner’s infidelity: 54% discovered the affair
themselves, 20% confessed, and 4% were told by the
‘other woman/man’. 1% simply got a text or letter.
22% said falling out of love was what lead to the
breakdown of their relationship, while 15.9% women
and 6% of men said a serious incident of abuse is
what pushed them over the edge. 40% of women claim
physical and mental abuse was a problem during their
marriage and 24.5% say that they have encountered
drug and alcohol abuse in their relationship before
its end."
It's interesting to compare
these problems with the effects of estrogen I
described. Compare this also with the simple fact
that married couples have always had problems but
previously didn't divorce at anything like these
rates.
- Sex, infidelity, falling out of love
and abuse are the primary reason for divorce in Britain.
The primary reason for divorce and hence likely the
primary reason for the increase in divorce relate closely to my suggested
effects from estrogen. Estrogen might make people more likely to have an affair
because it might make women more promiscuous, causing a husband to have an
affair or a wife to. The strain on a marriage from changing sex hormone levels
might as described cause people to fall out of love. Another aspect is
promiscuity is more common whereas before women were more likely to be virgins
when married. So virginity has often been claimed to make a marriage more
successful. When people have been promiscuous before marriage, like from the
effects of estrogen it might make marriage less likely to succeed later.
- One in five women cite a serious
incident of abuse as the reason for relationship breakdown.
Abuse as I described could occur from women being more
aggressive, argumentative from the effects of estrogen and also from men seeing
a women not settling down with low estrogen levels. So at a subconscious level
men might see a wife on estrogen as wanting other men, which causes abuse and
breakdown in a marriage.
- One in three men are currently bored
with their wife and marriage.
This can also be from the Estrogen Society, where so many
other women appear "on heat" from their artificially high levels of estrogen. So
by comparison the single life appears more exciting.
- The average length of marriage before
it hits the rocks is seven years, three months.
"Nearly half (44%) of married people surveyed say
that their sex lives have decreased while a further one in ten married couples
are having no sex at all. These figures are particularly worrying for men, with
“lack of sex” being cited as the single biggest factor in relationship
breakdown. Tellingly, 36 per cent of men and 44 per cent of women said a
partner’s affair was a key problem in their marriage."
Estrogen like testosterone can lead to a kind of
resistance and actually make a women less interested in sex than normal. So
chronic use of estrogen in contraceptives might lead to this. The simple way to
prove or disprove this is to survey which marriages used contraceptives and
which did not, and compare the divorce statistics and reasons for divorce for
each.
Muslim divorce
rates: S'pore tops KL, Jakarta
"DIVORCE rates among Muslims here have
risen since the 1970s, to top those of Indonesia and Malaysia where divorce
rates have actually fallen since the 1980s.
Last year, there were about nine divorces among every 1,000 married Muslims.
This was about three times that for Kuala Lumpur and Klang Valley and about five
times that for Jakarta, says Professor Gavin Jones of the Asia Research
Institute, who specialises in demography."
This shows divorce rates rising as a country becomes more
developed, which should also trend the increase in the use of estrogen as a
contraceptive. Of course there are many other factors in divorce and it is by no
means clear if estrogen is a factor, but the data is not inconsistent with it.
'Japan, Singapore and Hong Kong,
which are highly developed places in Asia, have higher rates of divorce. It's
not surprising that Singapore Malays too have a higher rate of divorce than
their counterparts in less developed countries.'
The director of PPIS-Jurong family service centre, Mr Mohd Ali Mahmood, agrees.
He said: 'The higher divorce rate among Singapore Malays is likely to be due to
the pressures of living in a highly developed country. Couples have a tougher
time balancing material pursuits with marriage demands.
'Another could be procedural efficiency - divorce cases here are processed more
quickly now.'
http://www.healthandage.com/default.cfm?curr_navi=02&curr_content=02&spr=en&framedef=1&curr_paramlist=healthandage;3024;2;haa_online_from;2;1;3;-;dsp_tooldetail
Unfortunately this article is no longer online.
Effects on
sexuality
The effect of the
Pill on a woman’s sexuality are difficult to judge; depending on
the individual and the particular formula, the Pill may enhance
or disrupt a woman’s (or couple’s) sex life. Neither the woman
who uses the Pill nor her partner need take any special action
before or during intercourse, which makes birth control
"invisible" and sex spontaneous and more natural. When combined
with the Pill’s high degree of effectiveness, this may enable
the couple, and especially the woman, to relax more easily
during sex.
Masters and Johnson, among others,
reported more than one woman who experienced her first orgasm
during intercourse shortly after going on the Pill.
So the Pill can radically affect people's
sex life. As the article say more than 80% of US women have
taken it, so 80% of women have had their sex lives changed by
it.
On the other hand, the
Pill’s various side effects may prove disruptive on a
physiological or even a psychological level. The hormonal
disruption caused by the Pill may result in mood swings, lower
libido, excessive or insufficient vaginal lubrication during
intercourse, and possibly an injured self-image due to weight
gain. Some women who use the Pill despite the teachings of their
religious traditions may feel conscious or unconscious guilt;
others may not fully trust an "invisible" method of birth
control. This wide range of variables makes prediction of the
Pill's effect on sexuality difficult, but the fact that the Pill
can and does have an impact in this area, for good or for ill,
is well-documented.
So mood swings and lower libido combined
with 80% of women taking it can point toward divorce reasons
mentioned earlier as a lack of sex and abuse.
A backlash against oral
contraceptives occurred in the early and mid-1970s, when reports
and speculations appeared that linked the use of the Pill to
breast cancer. Until then, many women
in the
feminist movement had hailed the Pill
as an "equalizer" that had given them the same sexual freedom as
men had traditionally enjoyed. This new development, however,
caused many of them to denounce oral contraceptives as a male
invention designed to facilitate male sexual freedom with women
at the cost of health risk to women.[13]
At the same time, society was beginning to take note of the
impact of the Pill on traditional gender roles. Women now did
not have to choose between a relationship and a career; singer
Loretta Lynn commented on this in 1975
with a song entitled "The Pill," which told the story of a
married woman's use of the drug to liberate herself from her
traditional role as wife and mother.
So estrogen became a symbol for a more
aggressive, self confident woman but how could so much come from
a new form of birth control? Previously birth control was
reasonably successful, and now the rhythm method can be as
reliable as the Pill. It may also be that estrogen created a
group of more aggressive, assertive, independent women and this
was seen at the time by the Feminist movement. The song by
Loretta Lynn might show how the estrogen not just liberated but
altered a woman's traditional role by changing her hormones and
destroying a marriage.
Further, married women had
control over their family size, even if their belief was that
the woman was obligated to submit to her husband's sexual
desires -- regardless of her interest -- which had been a
prevailing view in many cultures. For women with abusive
husbands or women who had had high risk pregnancies, this
control was potentially lifesaving; however, it did lead to the
conflict of obtaining medication without fully informing the
husband.
In time, however, as
society adjusted to these new facts, the Pill largely regained
its reputation, due to its indisputable effectiveness and
convenience. According to some sources, 80 percent of American
women use the Pill at some point in their lives,[14]
So if estrogen made women more assertive and aggressive
then this might have led to the lower birth rates we see in developed countries,
to the point where some populations are actually decreasing.
When a woman becomes pregnant, her
hormonal system changes to accommodate the gestation of her child. Her
progesterone levels, for instance, can rise to more than twenty times their
previous levels. Her estrogen system alters, which alters other brain chemicals,
like serotonin and dopamine. Her oxytocin levels change. In total, her hormonal
and brain-chemical alterations are responsible for her neurochemical interest in
imagining, caring for, protecting, and nurturing her child and her home.
Estrogen alters other brain chemicals like serotonin and
dopamine which are implicated in depression, ambition, aggression etc. So
altering the amount of estrogen in the body can affect the way a woman thinks,
and if 80% of women have estrogen like this then the effects on a society's
ideas might be enormous.
Male birth control pill moves closer
THE burden of family
planning may be about to shift to men.
A study suggests that
sperm levels shoot back to normal around three months
after men stop taking experimental hormonal
contraceptives, raising the prospect of a male
contraceptive implant or patch in the near future.
Christina Wang of
the Harbor-UCLA Medical Center in Torrance, California,
and her colleagues pooled data from 1549 men in 30
studies whose sperm counts dropped below 3 million sperm
per millilitre while taking hormonal contraceptives. The
World Health Organization defines 20 million sperm per
millilitre as fertile (The Lancet, vol 367, p
1412). Extended periods of treatment were associated
with slightly longer recovery time.
“Male
contraception is most likely to come in the form of
a patch, topical gel or injection”
When male
contraception arrives, it will most likely come in the
form of a patch, topical gel or bi-monthly injection,
say researchers. Making a male birth control pill
remains tricky because orally delivered testosterone can
have serious side effects, such as liver damage
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As can be seen here, the psychological effects of
testosterone on males is not considered.
Feminine beauty, the
subject of philosophical and artistic musings for
millennia, can be predicted by something as basic as
hormones – in women, but not men. Researchers at the
University of St Andrews in Fife, UK, have found that
women’s facial attractiveness is directly related to
their oestrogen levels.So
if 80% of women in a society take estrogen then this
amounts to an increase in attractiveness of women to men
overall, which might strain marriage, etc.
Miriam Law Smith
and colleagues photographed 59 women, aged between 18
and 25, every week for six weeks. On each occasion, they
provided a urine sample for hormone analysis and gave
information on where they were in their menstrual cycle.
None of the women wore make-up, nor were they taking the
contraceptive pill.
The researchers
then selected the photograph of each woman that had been
taken at the time of her highest urine-oestrogen level.
As expected, this correlated to the point of ovulation
in the women’s menstrual cycles. These photographs were
rated by 14 men and 15 women, also aged 18 to 25, for
attractiveness, health and femininity.
The group also
rated two composite face images. One composite was an
amalgamation of the 10 women with the lowest peak-oestrogen
levels, while the other image was a combination of the
10 women with the highest levels (see image).
Facial
formation
“There was a very
strong and direct correlation between the level of each
woman's oestrogen and how attractive, healthy and
feminine they were found to be, showing that fertility
is related to attractiveness,” Law Smith told New
Scientist. The faces considered most healthy and
feminine were also deemed the most attractive.
“It is likely that
those women with higher hormone levels also had
increased levels of oestrogen during puberty – the time
when the hormone has a crucial role in determining
facial appearance,” she suggests.
The amount of
oestrogen produced by a person’s body during the average
seven-year-long puberty is largely determined by
heredity. The hormone has lasting effects on bone growth
and tissue formation as well as the skin’s appearance,
Law Smith explains.
So should
13-year-old girls be given doses of oestrogen in the
hope that they will grow into more beautiful women?
“Absolutely not,” Law Smith says. “It certainly may make
them more attractive, but who knows what other effects
the hormone may have?"
One might also ask what the effect
of giving estrogen as a contraceptive has.
Of course there
may be an easier way - faking it. A further study by Law
Smith's group found that when women wore make-up the
correlation between perceived attraction and oestrogen
levels was completely masked, because make-up improved
appearance.
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The article about the
possible long-term effects of the contraceptive pill on
women's libido struck a chord with me (28 May, p 17). I
didn't take it for very long as its effect on my libido
was such that contraception seemed a little irrelevant!
When, many years
later, I had my sex hormone levels measured, my
testosterone level was very low. I was assured by a
consultant gynaecologist that this was extremely
unlikely to be related to my lack of sexual desire.
Indeed, he said, they saw so many women with
testosterone levels well below the "normal" range that
they were thinking about redefining the normal limits.
From issue 2504
of New Scientist magazine, 18 June 2005, page 24
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So if 80% of women have their libido affected then this
correlates with one of the main causes of divorce being lack of sexual desire,
perhaps leading to an affair. So there might be a paradoxical effect of
estrogen, making women appear more attractive but wanting sex less.
ORAL contraceptives
may free a woman to have sex without fear of getting
pregnant, but they could also extinguish her desire.
The pill has been
associated with many side effects, including blood
clots, migraines and weight gain. Perhaps least talked
about is its tendency to dull libido by decreasing
testosterone levels.
Contraceptive
drugs curb the hormone's production in the ovaries and
also raise levels of sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG),
a substance that takes it out of play. But it is unclear
how common problems are in pill users. Until now, any
sexual dysfunction, including loss of libido, muted or
non-existent orgasms or painful intercourse, was thought
to be reversible when women stopped taking the drug.
Irwin Goldstein,
Claudia Panzer and their colleagues at Boston University
studied 125 young women who attended a sexual
dysfunction clinic. Sixty-two of them were taking oral
contraceptives, 40 had previously taken them and 23 had
never taken them. The team measured levels of SHBG in
the women every three months for a year, and found that
in pill users they were seven times as high as in women
who had never taken them. Levels had declined a bit in
women who had stopped taking the pill, but remained
three to four times as high as in those who had never
taken it, the researchers told a meeting of the American
Association of Clinical Endocrinologists in Washington
DC last week. "There's the possibility it is imprinting
a woman for the rest of her life," says Goldstein.
So just like testosterone in a man
estrogen can change a woman permanently.
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http://www.hurriedwoman.com/faq.html
Q: Can birth control pills lower my sex drive?
A: They certainly can and do for about 10 to 15 percent of my patients. Most
authorities think that birth control pills tend to lower the amount of
testosterone in your bloodstream, which can in turn lower libido or sex drive.
Pills that have a relatively lower dose of progesterone will be less likely to
cause this effect.
So again estrogen in the Pill lowers libido.
Q: My husband says he needs to have sex to feel 'loved', but I don't feel
that way at all. How do we handle this?
A: Your mate's primary "love language" is often different from yours and may be
difficult for you to "speak" naturally. But, if you don't learn how to express
your love in a way that you can each understand, your attempts to communicate
love to each other will be much like an American and Chinese businessman
attempting to negotiate a contract without an interpreter-utter chaos and
frustration.
Estrogen makes women receptive to sex, but in order to wish to initiate
sexual contact a high level of testosterone is necessary. Estrogen and
testosterone tend to oppose each other's effects. Men manufacture more
testosterone than they do estrogen, and vice versa, but each gender produces
BOTH hormones.
So estrogen can have the effect making women receptive to
sex and more attractive but with a lower libido.
Most women's output of testosterone is masked during the greater part of
their menstrual cycle by their high estrogen levels, but when their estrogen
levels drop, right before they get their periods, the testosterone that they do
produce is unopposed and they then become very libidinous, sometimes demanding
sexual gratification at the beginning and during their menstrual period. After
the period is over, when estrogen levels start to rise again, they are less
likely to try to initiate sexual contact, but they may be receptive to it, just
the same.
Men and women who understand the fluctuation of hormone levels in women are
more inclined to become happily adjusted to each other's libidinal impulses.
There may be no perceived need to change any aspect of the female libido (for
instance, to try to make its fluctuations conform to male standards of
uniformity of level), but rather a celebration of its ups and downs.
One might not however be able to adjust to each other's
hormone levels if the Pill is affecting the woman's level of estrogen. So
perhaps over long enough this causes enough disruption in a marriage to make
people fall out of love.
http://www.zmag.org/zmag/articles/sargentapril2000.htm
Fisher says that in the 1960s 65
percent of 503 American college men would not marry a woman they did not
love. Well, that’s impressive. That means that 35 out of every 100 men
would. As for college women, 24 percent of 576 said they would refuse to wed
a man they didn’t love—72 percent were undecided. Good grief.
In 1991, according to Fisher’s statistics, 86 percent of men and 91 percent
of women said they would not wed someone they were not in love with and 50
percent of men and women believe that if romantic passion fades that is
sufficient reason for divorce.
Another example of radical changes in attitudes since
estrogen in the Pill was available.
Reclaiming Desire
Anyone who has stood in a
supermarket checkout line has
seen all the sexy headlines on
women's magazines, touting
exciting new ways for readers to
drive their men wild in bed or
to heighten their own sexual
pleasure. These are tantalizing
promises, to be sure. But they
sorely miss the mark.
The fact is, many women aren't
interested in more sex or better
sex. They aren't interested in
sex at all. They used to be, of
course. Over months or even
years, their sexual desire all
but disappeared. And they can't
understand why.
Through years of clinical
practice, Andrew Goldstein,
M.D., and Marianne Brandon,
Ph.D., have worked with scores
of clients who aren't satisfied
with their sex drives. They've
seen how women struggle to open
up about this very personal and
painful problem. And they've
seen how it can erode women's
self-esteem and strain intimate
relationships.
In Reclaiming Desire, Dr.
Goldstein and Dr. Brandon
present a self-care version of
their highly effective holistic
approach to treating low libido.
Review:
"Low libido is the most common
sexual disorder in American women,
affecting an estimated 22 to 43
percent of the female population.
And, according to authors Goldstein
(a gynecologist) and Brandon (a
clinical psychologist), the problem
is more complex than most therapists
realize. 'A decline in sexual desire
seldom has a single cause,' they
argue. 'The collection of factors
that influences a woman's sex drive
is as unique as the woman herself.'
Drawing upon their experience at the
Sexual Wellness Center in Annapolis,
Maryland, an institution that they
founded, the authors advocate a
holistic treatment that addresses
four spheres of a woman's life:
physical health, emotional
resilience, intellectual fulfillment
and spiritual contentment. Their
book covers all the possible
factors: weight, diet, exercise,
medical conditions, sleep patterns,
testosterone, estrogen, dopamine,
emotional arousal, stress, sexual
trauma and life passages such as
motherhood, menopause and divorce.
Understanding the mind-body
connection can increase sexual
pleasure, they emphasize, and the
acceptance of some basics-sexual
pleasure fluctuates throughout life;
a woman's experience often doesn't
match society's 'ideal'-can smooth
the road to change. Personal stories
from the authors' patients
demonstrate the problem's complexity
and help make the book more a
practical, open-ended discussion
about women's sexual desire than a
definitive medical manual."
Publishers Weekly (Copyright
Reed Business Information, Inc.)
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Interestingly this shows that perhaps 30% at
least of women who have taken the Pill have this problem. It should
be possible to determine whether many women have these problems and
have never taken Estrogen.
What's Really
Behind the Plunge in Teen Pregnancy?
The great sperm-count
debate began in 1992, when a group of Danish scientist
published a study suggesting that sperm counts declined
globally by about 1 percent a year between 1938 and
1990. This study postulated that "environmental
influences," particularly widely used chemical compounds
with an impact like that of the female hormone estrogen,
might be contributing to a drop in fertility among
males. If true, this was obviously an alarming
development, particularly given that human sperm counts
are already strikingly low compared to almost any other
species. "Humans have the worst sperm except for
gorillas and ganders of any animal on the planet,"
points out Sherman Silber, a high-profile urologist who
attributes this in part to short-term female monogamy.
Since one man's sperm rarely has to race that of another
man to the finish, things like speed and volume are less
important in human sperm than in other animals,
permitting a certain amount of atrophy among humans.
The Danish study
set an argument in motion. Other studies were published
showing that sperm counts were staying the same; still
others showed them going up. In the late 1990s, however,
an American reproductive epidemiologist named Shanna
Swan published work confirming the Danish findings. In a
well-respected study published in Environmental
Health Perspectives, Swan, now at the University of
Rochester Medical Center, found that sperm counts are
dropping by about 1.5 percent a year in the United
States and 3 percent in Europe and Australia, though
they do not appear to be falling in the less-developed
world. This may not sound like a lot, but
cumulatively—like compound interest—a drop of 1 percent
has a big effect. Swan showed, further, that in the
United States there appears to be a regional variation
in sperm counts: They tend to be lower in rural sectors
and higher in cities, suggesting the possible impact of
chemicals (such as pesticides) particular to one
locality.
Swan is part
of a group of scientists whose work suggests that
environmental changes are indeed having a reproductive
impact. Under the auspices of a women's health group at
Stanford University and an alliance called the
Collaborative on Health and the Environment,
some of these scientists met in February 2005 at a
retreat in Menlo Park, Calif., to discuss their
findings. Among the evidence presented are several
trends that seem to point to a subtle feminization of
male babies: a worldwide rise in hypospadias, a birth
defect in which the urethral opening is located on the
shaft of the penis rather than at the tip; a rise in
cryptorchidism, or undescended testicles; and
experiments Swan has done showing that in male babies
with high exposure to compounds called phthalates,
something called the anogenital distance is decreasing.
If you measure the distance from a baby's anus to the
genitals, the distance in these males is shorter, more
like that of … girls.
Wildlife
biologists also talked about the fact that alligators
living in one contaminated Florida lake were found to
have small phalli and low testosterone levels, while
females in the same lake had problems associated with
abnormally high levels of estrogen. In 1980 the
alligators' mothers had been exposed to a major
pesticide dump, which, some believe, was working like an
estrogen on their young, disrupting their natural
hormones. A report later published by this group pointed
out that similar disruptions have been found in a "wide
range of species from seagulls to polar bears, seals to
salmon, mollusks to frogs." As evidence that a parent's
exposure to toxicants can powerfully affect the
development of offspring, the example of DES, or
diethylstilbestrol, was also, of course, offered. Widely
given to pregnant women beginning in the late 1930s
under the mistaken assumption that it would prevent
miscarriage, DES left the women unaffected but
profoundly affected their female fetuses, some of whom
would die of cancer, others of whom would find their
reproductive capacity compromised. The consensus was
that the so-called chemical revolution may well be
disrupting the development of reproductive organs in
young males, among others. This research is
controversial, certainly, but accepted enough, as a
hypothesis, that it appears in developmental-biology
textbooks.
The environmental effects of estrogen like
compounds may also be contributing to this problem.
http://www.health-science.com/estrogen.html
Estrogen
Dominance
Natural progesterone is produced by the corpus luteum after
ovulation and balances the side effects of otherwise
unopposed estrogen.
Under influences of anovulatory cycles,
menopause, stress and
dietary
antagonists, progesterone
production ceases or is suppressed and the effects of
Estrogen Dominance, can be observed. Many women experience
otherwise
unexplained weight gain from the
lack of progesterone that is required for proper
thyroid function.*
It is also important that we distinguish
Natural Progesterone from
Yam
extract and from its counterparts in the drug industry -
PROGESTINS. Although these drugs are commonly referred to as
progesterone, this is a misnomer.
In some ways they mimic the effects of progesterone in the
body, but in other important ways they gravely interfere
with natural progesterone and can create and exacerbate
hormone related health problems, and be a primary
contributor to the condition referred to as Estrogen
Dominance:
-
Anger
-
Headaches
-
Irritability
-
Increased Body Fat
-
Interference with Thyroid Hormone Activity
(hypo-thyroid)
-
Depression
-
Salt and Water Retention
-
Blood Sugar Irregularities (Food Cravings)
-
Reduced Oxygen in All Cells
-
Decreased
Libido (Sex Drive)
-
Loss of Zinc and Retention of Copper
-
Excessive Blood Clotting
-
Irregular Cycles
-
Increased Risk of
Breast Cancer
-
Reduced Vascular Tone
-
Increased Risk of
Endometrial Cancer
-
Increased Risk of Ovarian Cancer
-
Endometriosis
-
Uterine Cramping
-
Infertility
-
Increased Risk of Uterine Cancer
When the above list of ill-effects is compared to the
benefits of
Natural Progesterone, we see a
nearly one-to-one correlation.
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So progesterone in the Pill might also be
interfering with estrogen levels in women, causing anger,
irritability and depression.
Various studies have claimed that people who have been in divorced families:
- have higher rates of alcoholism and other substance abuse compared to those who have never been divorced. Robert H. Coombs, Professor of Behavioral Sciences at UCLA, reviewed over 130 studies measuring how marital status affects personal well-being. They "attest that married people live longer and generally are more emotionally and physically healthy than the unmarried." Also, "studies consistently found more alcoholism and problem drinking among the unmarried than the married." The separated and divorced account for 70% of all chronic problem drinkers, and marrieds 15% [Coombs 1991].
- have higher rates of clinical depression. "Family disruption and low socioeconomic status in early childhood increase the long-term risk for major depression" [Gilman 2003].
- seek formal psychiatric care at higher rates. Studies vary, suggesting from 5 to 21 times the risk, and vary over whether men or women are more seriously affected [Marks 1998] and [Bloom 1979].
- in the case of men, are more likely to commit suicide at some point in their lives, according to a study by Augustine Kposowa, a University of California at Riverside sociologist [Kposowa 2003]. This study quantified earlier work [Kposowa 2000] that estimated an increased risk of 2.7 times for men.
- have lower life expectancies overall [see [Smock 1993], [US Bureau of the Census 1991], [Dickson 1993], [Arendell 1995], [Amato 1991], and [Joung 1994].
- are more likely to live in poverty [McLanahan 1994].
This indicates that most divorces occur for an
unnatural reason, and so the children and men are badly affected by
the experience. Also 2/3 or more divorces are initiated by the wife.
http://bne.stanford.edu/documents/JAGS2002.pdf
This study confirms and extends previous work on the possible influence of estrogen on mood and cognition. Our results indicate that women using ERT have less-severe symptoms of depression and anger and better verbal fluency and working memory than non-ERT users. Men also have lower levels of anger and better working memory than women who do not use ERT. The findings that female ERT users reported less-severe depressive symptoms than men or nonusers are consistent with previous reports demonstrating relationships between estrogen use and fewer depressive symptoms.
2–7
Unlike most
other studies, other aspects of mood were examined and found that ERT users and men were less angry than female nonusers. These results are actually contrary to those of Carlson et al.,
who found that ERT users were less elated, Understanding of how estrogen influences the brain and, in turn, mood and cognition, is derived from several sources, including basic laboratory studies (inferences from comparisons of sex differences, observational
epidemiological
studies, and clinical trials).35
Mood effects could result from estrogen’s modulation of serotonergic, -adrenergic, and
noradrenergic neurotransmitters.36–38
In addition, estrogen may modulate mood through monoamine oxidase inhibition at high levels, tryptophan displacement from plasma albumin binding sites, and effects on 5-hydroxytryptamine receptor binding and downregulation. Other brain effects of estrogen could influence cognitive performance, including its cholinergic neuroprotective and neurotrophic effects and its ability to foster dendritic growth.36–39 In this study, it is interesting to note that
ERT was associated with several variables that are modulated by the orbitofrontal areas, namely mood, verbal fluency, and working memory. This is certainly consistent with the fact that estrogen receptors are found in higher concentrations intraneuronally in the basal forebrain (origin of cholinergic pathways), frontal lobe (modulates the verbal encoding and retrieval system), and locus ceruleus (site of norepinephrine production) in addition to the hippocampus
(modulates learning and semantic memory).34 Studies of regional cerebral glucose metabolism using positron emission tomography (PET) have found higher
glucose metabolic rates in the CA-1 hippocampal region and the prefrontal cortex in premenopausal women than in age-matched men; moreover, postmenopausal non-ERT users show lower metabolic activity than age-matched men.
19,37,38,40–42
Other PET studies support the
observation that ERT use is associated with increased brain activity in temporal regions, areas known to be involved in cognitive function.15,43
This shows how estrogen affects brain
function.
http://web.missouri.edu/~news/releases/decjan03/gearystudy.html
The disorder,
characterized by a pattern of instability in relationships and self-image,
includes symptoms such as impulsivity, suicidal behavior, and difficulty
controlling anger. David Geary, professor of psychology at MU, and Catherine
DeSoto, assistant professor of psychology at UNI, found that fluctuations in
estrogen levels during the menstrual cycle may significantly worsen symptoms for
women who are at risk for developing the disorder. It is the first study to link
estrogen levels and BPD.
"The critical thing to understand is that it is not how much
estrogen you have in the body, but the level at which it fluctuates that is
related to BPD,” Geary said. “The combination of being prone to the disorder and
fluctuating estrogen levels is what produces the symptoms.”
So fluctuating estrogen levels with contraceptives is
similar to this.
http://www.wellnesswithin.com/articles/estrogen%20dominance.pdf
COMMON CAUSES
• Stress (excess
cortisol displaces progesterone)
• Xenohormone
exposure
• Use of oral or
injected contraceptives
• Conventional HRT
• Adrenal Fatigue
• Poor diet
(usually high in carb, low fat)
• Consumption of
trans-fats
• Nutritional
deficiencies (especially magnesium, zinc, copper and B complex vitamins)
• Luteal
Insufficiency (insufficient ovarian progesterone production)
•
Anovulatory
cycles (cycle where menstruation occurs, but no ovulation, and therefore no
ovarian progesterone is produced)
•
Obesity (in
postmenopausal women, estrogen is made in the fat cells; excess fat cells
make excess estrogen.)
COMMON SYMPTOMS
1. Anxiety, irritability, anger, agitation
2. Cramps, heavy bleeding, prolonged bleeding, clots
3. Water retention/weight gain, bloating
4. Breast tenderness, lumpiness, enlargement, fibrocystic
breasts
5. Mood swings, depression
6. Headaches/migraines
7. Food cravings, sweet cravings, chocolate cravings
8. Muscle pains, joint pains, back pain
9. Acne
10. Foggy thinking, memory difficulties
11. Fat gain, especially in abdomen, hips and thighs
12. Cold hands and feet (hypothyroid because estrogen blocks
thyroid hormones)
13. Blood sugar instability, Insulin Resistance
14. Irregular periods
15. Decreased sex drive
16. Gall bladder problems
17. Infertility
As can be seen, oral contraceptives are known to be a cause of
this. Many of these symptoms in a country with 80% of women taking the Pill at
some point can change a society.
http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=53725
Irritable Male Syndrome
WebMD Live
Events Transcript
Stressed out?
Grumpy? Moody? If you're a guy and these words describe
your mental state, you may be suffering from what
psychotherapist Jed Diamond calls "irritable male
syndrome" in his book of the same name. Yes, ladies,
even men can fall victim to hormone fluctuations. We
discussed IMS and its effects on men when Diamond joined
us on Nov. 10, 2004.
The opinions
expressed herein are the guests' alone and have not been
reviewed by a WebMD physician. If you have questions
about your health, you should consult your personal
physician. This event is meant for informational
purposes only.
MODERATOR:
Welcome to WebMD Live, Jed. Thank you for joining us
today. What is irritable male syndrome? Is this a new
problem or a newly recognized problem?
DIAMOND:
This is really based on 40 years of my own clinical
research as well as responses from 10,000 men. We've
discovered why millions of men are becoming angry and
depressed, and why they so often vent their frustration
on the women they love the most.
Irritable male syndrome (IMS) can be defined as a state
of hypersensitivity, frustration,
anxiety, and anger that occurs
in males and is associated with biochemical changes,
hormonal fluctuations,
stress, and loss of male
identity.
MODERATOR:
How are
depression and aggression
linked in men?
DIAMOND:
What we've found was that most of the professional
research and, in some ways, common experience have
assumed women suffered from depression at twice the rate
as males. We've found in our research that men often
experience depression in different ways than women. And
often, irritability and anger and hypersensitivity are
male aspects of depression that often go unrecognized.
MODERATOR:
What is the role of stress in IMS?
DIAMOND:
What we found is that stress is destroying marriages and
destroying relationships. There are a number of reasons
for this. There are more new and more deadly stresses
that we face today than ever before. In the past, stress
came from physical sources. A wild animal would run into
the camp or there would be physical danger. And men knew
how to respond to that, the fight or flight response.
But now, stress comes from many other sources. From too
much traffic, stress from where our country is going,
and the direction we're going, fears about unknown
attacks from outside or stresses from inside our
country. The traditional male responses don't work. We
can't fight it if we don't know what it is. As a result,
male stress tends to be taken out on the partners that
we are in relationship with.
MODERATOR:
Some men turn inward and harm themselves; others become
aggressive. What determines which way a man will go?
DIAMOND:
As I described IMS as having two types or directions, we
can say it's either acted in -- reflecting in
depression, and if not treated even
suicide. Or it's acted out in
terms of anger, aggression and violence. What determines
which one has to do with often our upbringing, in some
cases our genetic heritage and biochemistry. But quite
often, we see men going from one extreme to the other.
These are the men that seem to hold it inside and then,
out of the blue, tend to explode.
MODERATOR:
Are there hormonal factors in IMS? We so easily throw
around the idea that hormones affect women's moods, but
for men it never seems to come up.
DIAMOND:
Again, there is the assumption that women are hormonal
but men are moved more by logic. But the truth is men
are as hormonally driven as women. In fact, men have a
number of hormonal cycles:
1) Men's testosterone, for instance, varies and goes up
and down four or five times an hour.
2) There are daily cycles with testosterone being higher
in the morning and lower at night.
3) Men have a monthly hormonal cycle that is unique to
each man, but men can actually track their moods and
recognize they are related to hormonal changes through
the month.
4) We know that there are seasonal cycles with
testosterone higher in November and lower in April.
5) We know about hormonal cycles with males during
adolescence, but also the years between 40 and 55 have
what we call
male menopause or andropause.
6) Finally, we know there are hormonal changes in men
going through IMS, related to stress in a man's life.
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"What we've found is that one of the primary
symptoms is denial. That is, men think the
problem is anywhere other than in themselves."
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MEMBER QUESTION:
What causes hormones to go out of whack in a man?
DIAMOND:
There are a lot of things that can make hormones go out
of whack. Let's start with something we all do, and that
is eating food. If we gain weight, we run the potential
of increasing IMS.
Here is how it works: In the body, a certain amount of
testosterone gets converted to estrogen. Males and
females have estrogen and testosterone in our bodies.
When we put on weight, our fat cells are more active in
converting testosterone into estrogen. The more estrogen
we have and the less testosterone we have, the more
irritable we become and the less sense of our own manly
strength that we have. That's one way they get out of
whack.
A second way is that we know when we are under a great
deal of stress our testosterone levels drop. The third
way they get out of whack is when we use various
medications that can have in impact on hormonal levels.
Many people are using multiple medications, not always
with the knowledge of their doctors. And when I say
medication, I include herbal remedies that many people
think that because they're natural, they're safe, or
that they're not real medications.
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Dr. Wang's work is in keeping with
similar findings from other laboratories that question how relevant
testosterone is to human aggression. Some studies even indicate another,
improbable source of aggression: estrogen. Yes, the gal hormone. Other
work presented at the meeting showed that when male mice were
genetically deprived of their ability to respond to estrogen, they lost
a lot of their natural aggressiveness, becoming much less likely to
fight with other males or to display the general paranoia exhibited by
ordinary male rodents.
Considered together, the new work
underscores how primitive is scientists' understanding of the effects of
hormones on human and even animal behavior. Testosterone was first
isolated nearly half a century ago, yet its influence on the brain and
behavior remains largely a matter of creative speculation. "It's more an
art form than a science form," particularly when it comes to human
research, said Dr. William J. Bremner, an endocrinologist at the Seattle
Veterans Affairs Medical Center and the University of Washington.
What is not open to debate is that
to call testosterone or any of the related androgens "male" hormones, or
to call estrogens "female" hormones is a misnomer: both sexes possess
some amounts of each other's hormones. But they differ considerably in
the relative amount circulating through the blood.
In the case of testosterone, women
on average have about 40 nanograms of the hormone per deciliter of
blood, and a score of 120 would rank as extremely high (and very likely
result in hirsutism, acne and other problems of excess androgens). Men,
by contrast, normally have 300 to 1,000 nanograms of testosterone per
deciliter, or 10 times a woman's concentration.
This discrepancy explains in part
why testosterone has been tagged as the hormone of aggression. Men have
so much more of it than women -- more of it than women have of estrogen
relative to males. Men also commit the vast majority of violent crimes
and get into many more accidents than do women. There has been other
evidence implicating testosterone as the bearer of brutality. When
scientists inject laboratory animals with testosterone, male and female
animals alike respond with more aggressive behavior, becoming more
likely to attack intruders or to begin mounting anything that moves.
Moreover, some studies of prison
populations, wife beaters or other groups considered hostile and
foul-tempered, suggest that aggressive men have comparatively high
testosterone levels. And then there are those football players or
weight-lifters who take super-high doses of anabolic steroids --
synthetic androgens -- in an attempt to build strength and muscle mass.
Often, such men report feeling prepared to go out and puree their
opponents.
But scientists are beginning to
question the relevance of animal behavioral studies to human emotions,
and even to wonder what subsidiary effects the testosterone injections
could be having on laboratory animals to explain their increased
aggression. As for the human studies, they are contradictory and open to
various interpretations. For example, stress can affect hormone levels
in ways that are only now being mapped out, and prisoners are likely to
be under extremes of stress.
Dr. Wang notes that while
competitive athletes may report feeling pugilistic on anabolic steroids,
"this is a highly select group of subjects with a particular
psychological makeup." And the drugs they take are not native
testosterone, but usually a synthesized mix of androgens, with who knows
what effect coming from each.
So far, there have been no good,
controlled studies seeking to evaluate the effect of giving excess
testosterone to androgenically normal men. In lieu of such studies are
recent experiments comparing the mood states of hypogonadal men before
and after treatment, like Dr. Wang's work.
One missing element of this
report, however, is a conventional control group -- seeing what happens
to men with low testosterone if they are given a dummy medication rather
than real testosterone. Do they, too, feel happier and friendlier? Such
an experiment would be unethical, said Dr. Wang, because hypogonadal men
who visit the clinic are ill and need treatment to restore muscle and
bone mass and healthy cholesterol levels. Denying them testosterone
would be like denying a diabetic insulin.
Offering a partial explanation,
Dr. Bremner and his colleagues reported in the June 1994 issue of The
Journal of Clinical and Endocrinological Metabolism their results of
seeing what happens to healthy men when they are artificially and
temporarily brought to a state of low testosterone. Some of the subjects
were immediately given testosterone replacement, while others received
dummy medication.
The study was mainly intended to
look at the effects of testosterone on libido, but the researchers noted
that the men with a drug-induced state of hypogonadism reported
increased levels of aggression. "Perhaps it made them uncomfortable or
unhappy in a variety of ways, and that unhappiness registered itself as
a high score on the aggression scale," Dr. Bremner said.
What Dr. Bremner's study and other
reports found that does conform to stereotypical notions of the male
hormone is that testosterone is profoundly important to a man's sex
drive, though not to his mechanical abilities in bed. Hypogonadal men
report a sharp drop in sexual interest, which testosterone replacement
quickly restores. The androgen may also play a role in female sexuality,
and a growing number of menopausal women are asking that testosterone be
added to their hormone replacement regimen to restore a lackluster
libido. But the data linking sex drive and testosterone in women are
fiercely debated.
Testosterone therapy also appears
to give men and women more energy, vim, the desire to leap out of bed in
the morning and embrace the demands of the day with can-do
concentration. That zestiness is not the same as aggression, which if
anything is often accompanied by poor concentration and underlying
malaise, researchers said.
If testosterone qua testosterone
is not the demonic potion of legend, its yangian counterpart, estrogen,
may not be so innocent. Reporting last month at the annual meeting of
the American Pediatric Society, Dr. Jordan W. Finkelstein, Dr. Howard
Kulin and their colleagues at Pennsylvania State University said that
they compared the effects of giving estrogen therapy to girls who
suffered from delayed onset of puberty with that of giving testosterone
to boys who likewise were late in sexually maturing. The girls showed
earlier and larger increases in aggression than did the boys, until the
boys received the last and highest dose of testosterone.
The researchers propose that for
both sexes, the cause of the teen-age spike in aggressive and very
likely insolent behavior is estrogen. As scientists only lately are
beginning to appreciate, most of the effect of testosterone on the brain
is paradoxically estrogenic in nature. That is because the brain is rich
in the enzyme aromatase, which converts testosterone into estrogen. The
newly transformed hormone then acts on the nerve cells of the brain
through estrogen receptors, proteins designed specifically to link up
with it.
A male's brain also has some
receptors for testosterone, but they are far fewer in number or
distribution, and the converting enzyme aromatase does not leave much
testosterone around to hook up with these androgen receptors anyway.
Thus, in both boys and girls, as
they reach adolescence and their respective sex hormones surge, the
influence of either hormone on the brain and behavior probably works its
dark art as estrogen. In the Pennsylvania study, the girls may have had
a jump on aggressive behavior over the boys because they were given
direct injections of estrogen and therefore their brains did not need to
go through the work of converting testosterone to estrogen.
The centrality of the brain's
estrogen receptors to aggressive behavior was highlighted by a new study
of receptor-deficient mice, presented at the endocrine meeting. Dr.
Donald W. Pfaff of Rockefeller University in New York, his student,
Sonoko Ogawa, and Dr. Kenneth S. Korach of the National Institutes of
Health, have analyzed male mice genetically altered so that they lack
nearly all estrogen receptors.
Testing the male mice in a variety
of circumstances, the researchers determined that they were unusual in
many ways. Normal male mice do not tend to wander across open fields as
females do, but prefer to skulk along borders; males without estrogen
receptors generally took the female attitude, and freely walked where
they pleased. Ordinary males respond to intruders in their territory
with violent attacks, chasing, biting and generally seeking to harm the
interloper. These males react to newcomers tepidly if at all, perhaps
nipping if the animal comes too close, but never attacking the stranger
outright.
Significantly, the altered males
still have all their androgen receptors intact. It is only the ability
of their brain to respond to estrogen that is defective.
The researchers have yet to report
on the behavior of female mice lacking estrogen receptors. Those results
will probably break a few paradigms of their own.
Until then, perhaps it is time for
a new hormonal cliche to explain aggression. How about this: The
estrogen was so thick you couldn't beat it down with a rolling pin.
Estrogen could be key PMS factor
http://www.thelantern.com/media/storage/paper333/news/1998/01/30/Campus/Estrogen.Could.Be.Key.Pms.Factor-43713.shtml?norewrite200605070502&sourcedomain=www.thelantern.com
Angela Chundrlek
Women who experience anger, depression and
anxiety may have something to blame for
their discomfort.
A recent study in the New England Journal of
Medicine suggests the hormone estrogen may
be a key factor for those suffering from
premenstrual syndrome.
A research team from the National Institute
of Mental Health used Leuprolide, a drug
that prohibits both ovulation and
menstruation, to stop PMS symptoms in 10
women. The symptoms were then reproduced by
Estradiol, a form of the hormones estrogen
and progesterone, which affect PMS symptoms.
In an editorial for the study, Dr. Joseph
Mortola of Chicago's Cook County Hospital
wrote, "There is now sufficient evidence to
suggest that estrogen, never before
seriously considered as a hormone with
negative mood effects, may indeed play a
part in the symptoms of premenstrual
syndrome."
But Leuprolide is not for everyone, said
Susan Bluestone, a nurse practitioner at
Planned Parenthood. She said the drug is not
appropriate for a woman's general lifestyle,
and it usually takes from nine to 12 months
to be effective.
Eric Broker, a registered pharmacist at CVS
pharmacy, said Leuprolide has a lot of side
effects, such as high blood pressure, heart
murmur, depression, insomnia, headaches, and
dizziness. It is most commonly used as an
alternative to estrogen, and to induce
puberty for children that do not mature
properly.
Leuprolide is also commonly used on women
suffering from endometriosis to stimulate
artificial menopause, Bluestone said.
Endometriosis is a condition that causes
endometrial tissue, which is usually present
in the uterus and shed during the menstrual
cycle, to form outside the uterus.
Bluestone said general precautions such as
decreasing caffeine and salt intake can
lower PMS symptoms. Exercise, getting plenty
of sleep, and eating a healthy diet also
play an important role, she said.
As a college student, Bluestone said, women
must really look at their lifestyle. Factors
such as midterms and papers play a big role
in stress, she said.
http://www.religioustolerance.org/chr_dira.htm
Variation in divorce rates among Christian faith groups:
| Denomination (in order of decreasing divorce
rate) |
% who have been divorced |
| Non-denominational (small conservative groups;
independents) |
34% |
| Baptists |
29% |
| Mainline Protestants |
25% |
| Mormons |
24% |
| Catholics |
21% |
| Lutherans |
21% |
Barna's results verified findings of earlier polls: that conservative
Protestant Christians, on average, have the highest divorce rate, while
mainline Christians have a much lower rate. They found some new
information as well: that atheists and agnostics have the lowest divorce
rate of all. George Barna commented that the results raise "questions
regarding the effectiveness of how churches minister to families."
The data challenge "the idea that churches provide truly practical
and life-changing support for marriage."
Donald Hughes, author of The Divorce Reality, said: "In the
churches, people have a superstitious view that Christianity will keep
them from divorce, but they are subject to the same problems as everyone
else, and they include a lack of relationship skills. ...Just being born
again is not a rabbit's foot." Hughes claim that 90% of divorces
among born-again couples occur after they have been "saved." |
Variation in divorce rates by age:
| Age group |
% have been divorced |
| Baby boomers (33 to 52 years of age) |
34% |
| Builders (53 to 72 years of age) |
37% |
| Seniors (above 72 years of age) |
18% |
Many seniors were married in the late 40's or early 50's at a time
when divorce rates were much lower than they are today. |
Interestingly seniors would have married before the Pill
was available. It would be interesting to see if there were variations in use of
the Pill because of religious teachings.
http://www.speroforum.com/site/article.asp?idCategory=34&idsub=127&id=1449
We all are aware of the pain and consequences of divorce. I submit there is
an often overlooked factor in many broken marriages today: the use of
contraception.
In a popular and published lecture titled 'Contraception: Why Not?,' Dr. Janet
Smith, chair of Life Issues at Sacred Heart Major Seminary in Detroit, discusses
why the divorce rate doubled between 1965, when 25 percent of marriages ended in
divorce, and 1975, when 50 percent of marriages ended in divorce – arguably the
same as today.
Smith cites the research of social scientist Robert Michael, who concluded "that
as the contraceptive pill became more and more available, divorce became more
and more popular." In fact, Michael attributed "45 percent of this increase [in
divorce] to increased use of contraceptives." Why so?
There are three reasons, according to Michael. First, his statistical data
showed "that those who use contraceptives have fewer children and have them
later in marriage…those who have the first baby in the first two years of
marriage and another baby in the next couple years of marriage, have a much
longer lasting marriage than those who don't."
Secondly, Michael found that "since contraceptives have arrived on the scene,
there is much more adultery than there was before." Observes Smith: "People have
been tempted, for the history of mankind. It's easy enough to think about
wanting to have an affair, but wanting a child out of wedlock is another story.
But if most every woman is contracepting, then most every woman is available in
a certain sense and there is no real reason to say no. Adultery is absolutely
devastating to marriages."
The third explanation, says Dr. Smith, is "that women are financially more
independent. They do have fewer children. They do go into the work place. And,
again, when they have difficulties in the marriage, it's much [easier] to say,
‘Take a walk,’ than it is to work it out because they need their
husband for one fewer reason than they did before."
Smith also says that widespread pre-marital sex and cohabitation have
contributed to the increase in divorce. Obviously, those who fornicate often use
some type of contraception, and, if that fails, they can always have the unborn
child killed through abortion.
"So contraception hasn't made for better marriages," concludes Smith.
Indeed. Now consider that the divorce/separation rate for married couples who
use natural family planning - that is, periodic abstinence from sexual
intercourse – is less than one in eight, according to Dr. Brian Clowes of Human
Life International. (It should be noted that some faithful Catholics
http://www.catholiceducation.org/articles/sexuality/se0002.html
| Most
people don't know that every Christian church up until 1930 taught that
contraception was wrong. There was a universal teaching against
contraception within Christian churches. It was only in 1930 that the
Anglican church first broke with that unbroken tradition and approved
contraception within marriage for serious reasons. In 1931, Pope Pius XI
wrote the Encyclical, Casti Connubii, which is usually translated On
Christian Marriage, and there he reiterated what had been the constant
teaching of the Church. Within the Catholic Church there was virtually
no debate on the issue until the mid-1960's. The debate starts about
1963. There was really a great acceptance of the Church, of those in the
Church, of the teaching of the church. In 1960, some 66% of Catholics
were living by the Church's teaching. Sixty-six percent. Now they say
some 80% of Catholics are contracepting. Thirty percent of Catholics are
sterilized, which is the same rate as the rest of the population. Only
4% of Catholics are using Natural Family Planning. I personally think
that might be a high estimate.
So, how have we in the last 30 years gone from 66% compliance to at
best 4% of compliance? One reason was that there really weren't very
good contraceptives in the early sixties. The pill was not yet really on
the market. It had just begun to be developed. Most contraceptives were
illegal in most states — at least for interstate purchase. The laws that
made contraceptives illegal were put on the books by Protestant
legislators. Contraception was always seen to be the source of great
sexual license in society and considered to be something that a morally
upright society would ban. But as you all know, because of the doctrine
of the “right to privacy” found in the “penumbra” of the Constitution,
those laws were thrown out in the early 1960's. The Supreme Court
decision that threw out laws against interstate sale of contraceptives
really was the precursor to Roe v. Wade. The right to privacy is found
in Griswold v. State of Connecticut and then is reiterated in Roe v.
Wade which legalized abortion. It was also at that time, for Catholics
at least, that obedience was considered to be a virtue. It was not yet
seen to be a pathological condition. So, Catholics were prepared to
accept what their Church taught simply because it taught it, whether or
not they understood it.
In the 1960's, the pill became available and that's really when the
revolution in contraceptives began. The pill was considered to be a
great salvation of mankind for several reasons. It was at that time that
people began to think we were headed for disaster as far as population
was concerned. In fact, when I was in high school, we had posters of
globes with human beings falling off the globe, it was projected to be
so crowded. But there actually have been no two people who have been
more wrong than Malthus and Paul Ehrlich, who both predicted huge
famines and wars because of population. |
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Well, who was right? The secular world or Pope Paul VI? What
about the predictions of the secular world who thought contraception
would be so great? What about the prediction that marriages would be
better? I think, in some respects, marriages are better, but the divorce
rate shows us that there are a lot of very bad marriages, or at least
marriages that end because people think they are very bad. In fact, the
divorce rate doubled between 1965 and 1975. The divorce rate had been
sort-of sneaking up all century long until in the mid 1960's it was at
25%, and then in 1975 it had got up to 50%. In a short ten year period,
the divorce rate doubled. There's a social scientist at the University
of Stanford named Robert Michael who was intrigued by this and he
wondered why it was that the divorce rate doubled in a ten year period.
He actually discovered that as the contraceptive pill became more and
more available, divorce became more and more popular. In about 1975-1976
when about every woman who wanted access to the pill had it, that's when
the divorce rate leveled off.
In this statistical scientific investigation, he's discovered three
reasons why he thinks the use of contraceptives have contributed to this
massive increase of the divorce rate. He says he can attribute 45% of
this increase to increased use of contraceptives. These are his reasons.
There are three. I think there are others, as well. |
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Now, I think there are several other reasons why contraceptives
are damaging to marriage. It's hard to get really clear statistics on
this but just recently in USA Today, I read that one poll shows
that 37% of high school students are sexually active. Another said 57%.
I saw another that said that 87% of college students have been sexually
active. I think that most of you know that there are very few people
going into marriage as virgins anymore. They're harder to find. And I
think all this sexual activity before marriage is not good for marriage.
Most people have been lied to at some point. Most people have made
promises and broken those promises and had promises made to them and
those promises have been broken. And they're marrying someone who has
lied and made promises and had promises broken and they don't trust each
other quite as much. They don't even trust themselves quite as much.
“I've said these things before, I've made these commitments before — can
I keep them? He's said these things before, he's made these commitments
before — can he keep them?” |
| Has it made for fewer unwanted pregnancies? The statistics on this
are wild. In 1960, some 6% of white babies were born out of wedlock. Six
percent. In 1992, 22% of white babies were born out of wedlock. Almost a
four-fold increase, and it's rapidly rising. Rapidly rising. In 1960,
some 22%, same figure, 22% of black babies were born out of wedlock.
Anybody know the percentage now? Sixty-eight percent. Sixty-eight
percent of black babies are born out of wedlock. That took thirty years.
I don't think it will take thirty years for the 22% of whites to go up
to 68 if we follow down the same path we are currently following. Now,
here's my connection: First of all, the world tells us that if we have
more and better contraceptives we can solve these problems. There will
be fewer unwanted pregnancies. But the point was, in 1960, there were
almost no contraceptives available, especially to teenagers. You had to
know some tacky gas station somewhere and have a few quarters and that's
about the best you could do. But any teenager now can get contraceptives
from the guidance counselor, in fact, from some welcome-to-school kits
in some schools. We live in a culture in which condoms can be handed out
in schools and Bibles can't. And I think that tells you everything you
need to know about our society. So, it seems to me that clearly, more
and better contraceptives aren't going to help. Teenagers have
incredible access to them. But teenagers are just as good at using
contraceptives as they are at making their beds and doing their homework
and doing their chores, at about the same degree of reliability. |
| Now, I don't know about the rest of you women, but I've been looking
for a pill that will make me more irritable, more depressed, help me to
gain weight, and reduce my libido so I can have sex. And I'm sure all
the men would like the woman he's dealing with to be more irritable,
more depressed, gain weight more easily, and have a reduced libido,
don't you? Now, why does the pill do this to a woman? Why does it do
this to a woman? Well, the fact is that the pill makes a woman's body
think it's pregnant. It gives it hormones that are there the first
couple months of pregnancy. And women in the first couple months of
pregnancy get irritable, depressed, gain weight, and have a reduced
libido. And women are in this condition when they're on the pill, for
week after week, month after month, year after year. It's an astonishing
thing. |
| Most couples are frightened about using Natural Family Planning, and
frightened is the right word. They are frightened of using Natural
Family Planning and largely for two reasons. One is they think it
doesn't work. But they are wrong. In an article in the British Medical
Journal, September 18th, 1993, a doctor reviews the evidence on Natural
Family Planning and says it's more effective than the most effective
contraceptive. More effective! He cites studies from, of all places,
Calcutta. And you know who it is who is teaching Natural Family Planning
in Calcutta? A diminutive Catholic nun. The author has found out that
most of those whom she teaches are Muslims and Hindus. Natural family
planning has what is called, a virtual zero pregnancy rate, .004
pregnancy rate.
Still, such information doesn't seem to convince people. Many confuse
NFP with the old 'rhythm method', which was some 27% ineffective. There
is a huge difference between the 'rhythm method' and the modern methods
of Natural Family Planning. I will give a review course on them in a
minute.
The second reason that couples are afraid is the abstinence that is
required. They think the abstinence will just be too hard. It's mostly
the women who are afraid of it and they're afraid of it because of the
males. They think, “My husband will get too irritable, he'll get too
grumpy. He'll be removed and distant and won't be affectionate and will
stay away from me during that time. And, how will we make up our fights?
And, how will we talk? And I'm nervous about what's going to happen.”
Men think they will feel greatly deprived. “Who can go that long; who
can go seven to twelve days. It's not right. That's not what I got
married for.” These fears are most common among those who have
contracepted before marriage. Those who have used contraception before
marriage and used contraception within marriage are very frightened of
the abstinence because sex has become key to their relationship. They
think that when you take the sex out of a relationship, where's the love
going to be? Where's the intimacy going to be?
Couples who've abstained before marriage, have little or no problem
with Natural Family Planning. Little or no problem. In fact, they think
that abstinence is a way of expressing love. It's not this huge
deprivation. The reason that they abstained before marriage was not
because they weren't attracted to each other, not because the hormones
weren't raging, but because they loved each other. They said, “I'm not
going to have sex with you before marriage because I love you. I don't
want to hurt you. I don't want to have a stronger commitment than I've
made here. I don't want to put us in danger of having a baby when we
haven't really prepared for that baby. Marriage is preparation for those
bonds and marriage is preparation for that baby. And I love you and I
can wait. That's how much I love you.” Within marriage, abstinence has
that same aspect. “It's not a good idea for us to have a child right
now. We can abstain. We did it before. We know how to show our affection
at this time. We know how to be loving to each other at this time
because we've done it before.” And they can do it. |
http://www.omsoul.com/pamview.php?idnum=177

http://www.statistics.gov.uk/cci/nugget.asp?id=326
In 2002/03 the contraceptive pill continued to be the most common method of
contraception, used by 26 per cent of GB women aged 16 to 49. Sterilisation, of
either the woman or her partner was used by 21 per cent, and the male condom by
19 per cent. These have remained the three most common methods of contraception
since 1986.
The type of contraception that women use varies with their age. Women aged under
35 are more likely to use the pill than any other form of contraception, while
the likelihood of a woman having been sterilised, or having a partner who has
had a vasectomy, rises with age.
Between 1998/99 and 2002/03 the proportion of 16 to 17 year-olds using the pill
increased from 17 per cent to 24 per cent. There were also rises among 30 to 34
year-olds (from 24 per cent to 28 per cent) and 45 to 49 year-olds (from 3 per
cent to 9 per cent). In all other age groups the level of use remained similar
to the 1998/99 level.
http://www.lifeissues.net/writers/zim/zim_103marriagecontra1.html
A very significant observation was made. by Nona Aguilar in the book No-Fill
No-Risk Birth Controlconcerning couples who switched from artificial methods
of contraception to the practice of natural family planning. It was only
some months after they had switched that it became evident to them how their
relationship had improved. For example, one summed up her reaction in a
single sentence:, "'I now know the true meaning of the word 'intimate'."15
Drs. Charles and Elizabeth Rendu, whose experience in family counseling
and the training of teachers of natural family planning is vast, tell how
contraceptives tend to erode love in marriage:
Listening to many couples who have consulted us on family planning has
revealed that contraceptives endanger conjugal love. After using them
for two or three years, women (especially) complained of a cooling of
mutual love, even though they had at first been happy to be able to
prevent too-frequent pregnancies. Their language pointed to an
objectification: "During intercourse I am only an object, a thing, a
means, at the service of my husband's pleasure." And this attitude
prevailed even among couples who continued to love each other.16
I have heard frequently in Japan that couples are not pleased with the
condom, which is the chief method of birth control in this nation. Divorces
are also increasing, from 114,000 in 1974 to 142,000 in 1980.17
The rate of divorces per 1,000 people is more than four times higher in
the United States than in Japan: in 1980 it was 1.22 in Japan (17) and 5.4
in the United States.18
One cannot say absolutely, therefore, that contraception alone
inevitably reflects itself in divorce statistics. Cultural, social, economic
and legal considerations make divorce easier in some countries than in
others.
Compared to the nations of the world the United States virtually leads
the world in the practice of contraception, abortion, and sterilization (CAS).
It is also a place where divorce is fashionable and easy to get, something
which places the United States near the top of the heap in divorce
statistics also. However, marital difficulties which do not end in the
formal termination of divorce, go largely unreported, and these are
presumably co-extensive, in greater or lesser degree, with the practice of
CAS throughout the world.
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Age at First Marriage
Since the 1950s, the median age at first marriage has increased
for both men and women, reaching 27 years for men and 25 years for women in
2003.3
Duration of Marriages
How long do marriages last? Table 2 shows that first marriages
occurring during the peak of the baby-boom years (1955 to 1959) lasted longer
than those occurring 20 years later (1975 to 1979) after enactment of new
divorce laws. That is to say, a lower percentage of those in this later marriage
cohort than baby-boom brides and grooms reached subsequent anniversaries. While
76 percent of men who married in 1955 to 1959 stayed married for at least 20
years, only 58 percent of men who married in 1975 to 1979 stayed married as
long. However, for both men and women, marital longevity appears to have
stabilized for marriages entered into since 1975 to 1979. For example, while the
proportion of men and women who were married for at least 10 years fell for
marriage cohorts from 1955 to 1959 through 1975 to 1979, for marriages
contracted in 1985 to 1989, no further drop for men was noted while the
proportion for women actually increased. For the 1985 to 1989 marriage cohort,
75 percent of people were still married after 10 years. The proportion reaching
their fifteenth wedding anniversary increased for women married from 1975 to
1979 through the subsequent 5-year marriage cohorts. So while the data do not
show large increases in marital longevity, they suggest that the trend toward
shorter marriages may have ended for more recent marriage cohorts.
Interestingly the data shows a leveling of of divorce, which may
mean the effects of the estrogen may have reached an equilibrium.